Traveling alone is one of the most liberating things a woman can do for herself. It builds confidence, expands your worldview, and reminds you of just how capable you are. But for all its beauty, travel also comes with risks, especially for women navigating unfamiliar places alone.
Content Warning: Sexual Harassment, Trauma Response
As much as I love being on the road, I’ve also faced moments that shook me. One of the most disturbing experiences happened in Cambodia – my first time traveling alone – when a seemingly friendly temple guide I trusted crossed a line. As the guide ushered me into the temple, he insisted on showing me a “secret spot” where, according to him, I could capture a beautiful, creative photo. I followed him, trusting his familiarity with the place. He offered to take the photo. But as he helped me down from the rocks on our way to the main exit, he groped my breasts.
Did I scream? No. I froze. I couldn’t speak, couldn’t react. I just stood there, confused, ashamed, and scared. Only when other tourists came into view did I feel a brief wave of relief as he disappeared.
Did I go to the police? No. How could I explain it to them? Cambodia has an English-speaking population of around 21%, and I wasn’t sure how the language barrier would affect my ability to report it. Besides, I didn’t have the luxury of time to stay in Siem Reap, file a complaint, and wait for him to be arrested. I was just trying to feel safe again.
I wish I could say that experience was rare. But the truth is, many women traveling alone face similar situations, and most of us don’t talk about them enough. So I’m sharing this not to scare you, but to prepare and empower you. Here are practical tips from my journey and those of other women traveling solo to help you stay safe, smart, and bold enough to explore the world.
1. Do Your Research, But Don’t Rely Solely on Appearances
Before traveling solo, I always research the culture and places I’ll visit. However, what happened in Cambodia reminded me that even “safe” spaces can carry hidden risks. This was a sacred temple, and the guide was part of the official group stationed at the temple entrance.
Don’t assume someone is trustworthy just because they wear a badge. Read recent reviews. Check travel forums. Trust recommendations from fellow solo female travelers. If your gut says someone’s attention feels off, listen to it.
2. Stay in Public View – Even With Guides
When touring with a guide, try to remain visible to others. One of my biggest regrets was failing to say no when the guide led me to his “secret spot”.
If traveling solo, don’t hesitate to remove yourself from a situation that makes you uneasy. You don’t owe anyone politeness at the cost of your safety.
3. Share Your Location in Real Time
Use apps like WhatsApp or Find My to share your live location with someone you trust. Whether you’re out for a day trip or just exploring a city, this adds a layer of safety when traveling on your own.
4. Practice the Art of the Exit
If someone makes you feel unsafe, you don’t need a reason to walk away. Practice firm, simple exits like “I don’t feel well,” or “I need to meet my friend now.” Being direct is okay. It can save you from discomfort or worse.
5. Carry Personal Safety Tools
Depending on your destination’s laws, consider bringing a whistle, pepper spray, or a safety alarm. A loud noise can startle someone or draw attention quickly. Even having your phone in video mode can act as a deterrent.
6. Don’t Keep Quiet – Tell Someone You Trust
When I was groped, I froze. Then I blamed myself for not being firmer, and for “letting it happen.” It took time to process it, and even longer to talk about it.
Here’s what I know now: silence protects no one but the abuser. If something happens while traveling alone, tell someone. Report it to your hostel, local authorities, or another traveler. There is strength in speaking up.
7. Travel Doesn’t Have to Be Fearful – Just Informed
Despite what happened, I haven’t stopped traveling solo. I still believe in the good and the beauty of this world. But I now travel more aware, more equipped, and more willing to share stories that can help others.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve ever had an experience where someone crossed a line while you were traveling, know this: you’re not alone, and it wasn’t your fault. Keep exploring. Keep growing. But don’t silence your intuition or shrink yourself to avoid making a scene.
You’re allowed to take up space, say no, and protect your peace – wherever in the world you are.
6 Comments
I’m so sorry this happened to you. As someone old enough to be your mom, it honestly made me furious to read. No one should ever have to experience that, especially when they’re just trying to enjoy the world and explore. I’m really glad you’re speaking out—sharing your story and the tips you included will definitely help others stay aware and safe. You’re incredibly strong for turning something awful into something that could protect others.
I am so sorry that you experienced this. Thank you for being willing to share your story in order to help others. This is such an important and valuable post and your tips are really helpful. Thank you again for sharing!
This is a really informative post. And a very brave move to talk about this. A woman should enjoy traveling and should not advertise to travel alone. Also, it is necessary to be informed and be careful in which places we move with unknown people. Being considerate is very important for a woman.
What a horrible experience! I’m so sorry this happened but I really appreciate you sharing your story and helpful information for other female travelers!
I’m so sorry to hear this! I’m very glad you shared. It is true to always stay vigilant. I am living in a country I am not from and I completely understand the feeling of not being able to communicate what happened properly. Thanks for this post.
I remember you telling me this horrible story long ago I hope your getting over it now . and are well.